It is our sincere hope that you and your significant other’s sex life is amazing. But even for the people who are completely content with what goes on in the bedroom, it is possible that there some things that you think would make sex even more fun. And sharing those needs or wants can make your special time even more ecstatic.
Having that in mind, a lot of people believe conversations about sex are hard because they are the epitome of exposing your deepest self. You may doubt if you did well enough, whether your significant other was content. And although the level of pleasure you get from sex may be more than enough, it is possible that you want to try out new things. Even though these doubts and topics are valid, a lot of people evade them because of the belief that they will upset their partner with a negative comment. A lot of the time people don’t want to be refused or judged, so they don’t really talk about their desires. My sincere belief is that you should toss the dice and talk about these things regardless. Discussing your sex can greatly add up to your and your partners pleasure that is received from the act. And below is the proof…
We should discuss sex because (these are all findings of different researches):
- Graduates and undergraduates who talk about sex say they are more content with their sex life.
- Fulfillment and connection with their partner is greater in couples who share their sexual choices, previous encounters and current contentment level with each other.
- When they open up about sex, people became closer with each other
- Not speaking directly, or not speaking at all, causes spouses to have doubts in themselves and as a result feel less content. Regardless of who is being indirect or not communicating, both parties suffer.
- Spoken and non-vocal exchange during a sexual act causes a higher level of enjoyment.
- Couples who want to, but don’t communicate about sex experience lower levels of physical pleasure from the intercourse.
- While the fear of talking about sex increases, enjoyment of the sexual encounter diminishes.
So make a commitment that in the next month you will talk about a positive side of your sex with your partner. Share what you want and do not disrespect their views. Keep in mind that speaking about it is a proven way of improving your sexual experience. And the very fact that you are communicating more about these intimate topics will make your connection more powerful.